The Marriage You Want Guided Recovery Group
The Marriage You Want
Learning What Healthy Marriage Really Looks Like
Begins September 20, 2026
1st & 3rd Sundays from 8:00–9:00 PM Central
Women’s Guided Recovery Community
Live group discussion + educational resources + guided work with your husband at home
Space is intentionally limited to 6 women.
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What Does a Healthy Marriage Actually Look Like?
After betrayal, we spend a tremendous amount of time learning to recognize what is unhealthy. We learn about dishonesty, secrecy, manipulation, entitlement, gaslighting, problematic sexual behavior, unhealthy sexual expectations, poor boundaries, lack of empathy, and relational patterns that leave us feeling confused or unsafe. Learning to recognize those things is an important part of recovery.
But knowing what is unhealthy doesn't automatically mean we know what healthy looks like.
If unhealthy patterns have been present in your relationship for years—or perhaps were there from the very beginning—it can be surprisingly difficult to know what you should reasonably expect from marriage. You may find yourself wondering what healthy communication and emotional connection actually look like, how responsibility should be shared, what mutuality means in everyday life, or how healthy intimacy differs from the messages you have absorbed about sex and marriage.
You may also be trying to distinguish healthy compromise from self-abandonment, normal marital difficulty from patterns that genuinely need to change, or imperfect attempts at growth from continued unhealthy behavior.
These are not always easy distinctions to make, especially after betrayal has shaken your confidence in your own perceptions.
The Marriage You Want is a Guided Recovery Community designed to help women develop a clearer picture of healthy marriage so they can better recognize it, participate in it, ask for it, and discern what is happening within their own relationships.
Learning a New Picture of Healthy
Betrayal recovery understandably teaches us to become very good at identifying danger. We learn about problematic sexual behavior, betrayal trauma, gaslighting, boundaries, relational safety, recovery behaviors, and unhealthy cycles. That knowledge gives us language for experiences that may have been confusing for a very long time.
But recovery cannot only be about identifying what we don't want anymore. We also need a meaningful picture of what we do want.
Using Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach's The Marriage You Want as our companion resource, we'll explore research and ideas about what contributes to healthy marriage. We'll examine some of the beliefs and expectations we may have absorbed about marriage, gender, sex, communication, partnership, responsibility, and intimacy and consider whether those beliefs actually support healthy relationships.
This isn't about receiving another set of rules for becoming a "good wife." Instead, we're developing a relational framework that helps us understand what mutuality, respect, emotional connection, shared responsibility, healthy intimacy, friendship, and partnership can look like in an actual marriage between two imperfect people.
As that picture becomes clearer, we become better equipped to recognize both genuine growth and areas where important work is still needed.
Learn Together, Practice at Home, and Come Back to Process
Our live community meetings are for women only. This gives us room to learn, ask questions, and talk honestly about what we're discovering without having to manage a husband's response or work through marital disagreements in front of the group.
Between meetings, however, the work moves into your marriage.
You'll be encouraged to take selected concepts, questions, conversations, and exercises home and explore them with your husband. Together, you can begin looking at what healthy communication, partnership, intimacy, friendship, responsibility, and mutuality might look like within your own relationship.
When we come back together, we'll have space to process what you're discovering. Perhaps something felt surprisingly healthy, or you recognized an old pattern you had previously considered normal. Maybe you and your husband discovered an assumption you've both carried for years, tried a different way of approaching a conversation, or encountered an area where one or both of you still have significant work to do.
That becomes part of our learning.
Rather than discussing healthy marriage only in theory, we'll create a rhythm of learning what healthy is, exploring it within your actual relationship, and returning to a supportive community to reflect on what you're discovering.
Healthy Marriage Requires Two People
Learning what healthy marriage looks like does not make you responsible for creating one by yourself.
A healthy relationship requires two people who are willing to participate in healthy relationship. Your husband remains responsible for his own honesty, recovery, accountability, empathy, choices, behavior, and growth. Your job is not to become so skilled, accommodating, patient, or understanding that you can compensate for another person's unhealthy behavior.
Instead, developing a clearer picture of healthy relationship can help you make important distinctions. You can begin recognizing what you can work on together, what belongs to your husband to address, what you may want to examine within yourself, and what you no longer want to normalize within your marriage.
It can also help you recognize growth.
Sometimes recovery involves being able to look at something happening in your marriage and realize, perhaps for the first time, this really is different. This is healthier. We are building something new.
That kind of clarity matters whether you are actively rebuilding your marriage, discerning its health, or simply trying to understand what you should reasonably expect from an intimate relationship.
How the Community Works
The Marriage You Want begins September 20, 2026, and meets on the 1st and 3rd Sundays of each month from 8:00–9:00 PM Central.
Our live meetings are for women, giving you a place to learn and process alongside others who understand the complexity of relational recovery after betrayal.
Between meetings, you'll receive educational resources and guided opportunities to bring what you're learning into your marriage. You can explore selected concepts, conversations, and exercises with your husband at home and then return to the community to process what you're discovering.
This gives us a practical rhythm: learn together, practice in real life, reflect on what happened, and continue developing a clearer understanding of healthy relationship.
Connection Between Meetings
Your community doesn't disappear when our Zoom meeting ends.
Participants will have access to a private, moderated WhatsApp group throughout our time together. This gives you a place to stay connected, share insights, ask questions, and talk through what you're noticing as you begin applying the material within your own relationship.
A Small, Supportive Community
Each Guided Recovery Community is intentionally kept small, and The Marriage You Want is limited to just 6 women.
Relational work needs room for thoughtful conversation, questions, reflection, and genuine connection. Keeping our community small gives each woman the opportunity to participate meaningfully and to build relationships with others who understand the complexity of healing and discerning after betrayal.
Our goal isn't to create a large class. It is to create a small, guided community where you have room to learn, process, and grow.
Once 6 women have registered, this community will be full.
Your Companion Book
Throughout our time together, we'll use:
The Marriage You Want
by Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach
Please purchase a copy of the book before the community begins so you are prepared to use it throughout our work together.
PURCHASE THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT →
The book is purchased separately and is not included in your group investment.
Choose Your Payment Option
The investment for this Guided Recovery Community is $399 when paid in full. Flexible weekly and monthly payment options are also available.
Pay in Full — $399
Make one payment of $399 for your complete Guided Recovery Community experience.
Monthly Payment Plan — $104/Month for 4 Months
Prefer to spread your investment out over several months?
Make 4 monthly payments of $104 ($416 total).
Your payment schedule begins on the date you subscribe.
Weekly Payment Plan — $29/Week for 16 Weeks
Prefer smaller weekly payments?
Make 16 weekly payments of $29 ($464 total).
Your payment schedule begins on the date you subscribe.
A Note About Payment Plans
Weekly and monthly payment plans are offered as flexible ways to pay for your complete Guided Recovery Community. They are not pay-as-you-go options.
By selecting a payment plan, you are committing to completing all scheduled payments for the group, even if you are unable to attend every live meeting.
Registration and payment are both required to secure your place in the group.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you're interested but still discerning whether The Marriage You Want is the right next step for you, start with our Group Interest Form.
COMPLETE THE GROUP INTEREST FORM →
If you're ready to join us, complete your registration and choose your payment option to secure your place.
REGISTER FOR THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT →
Space is limited to just 6 women.
This community isn't designed to convince you to stay married, teach you how to keep your husband happy, or minimize the impact of betrayal by focusing prematurely on the future.
Our goal is much more foundational: to help you learn what healthy marriage actually looks like.
When you have a clearer understanding of healthy relationship, you are better equipped to participate in it, advocate for it, recognize when it is developing, and identify when it is absent. You can approach your marriage with a framework that includes not only the warning signs you've learned to recognize through betrayal recovery, but also a positive vision of the kind of relationship you want to build.
You have spent a great deal of time learning what unhealthy feels like.
Now let's learn what healthy looks like.
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